Finding Jane ~ Part Three ?>

Finding Jane ~ Part Three

After nearly two years of feeling frumpy, of neglecting myself, of disappearing into the role of a ‘mother’, a ‘wife’, I knew it was time for a change. I owed it to my family; my husband and my daughter, to be the best ‘Me’ I could be. But more importantly, I owed it to myself. Thanks to Justine, from Total Image Solutions, I took the plunge, I put myself out there, and I said “This is not OK. I want to be better than this.”

I made the decision to “Find Jane”. It is a work in progress. Discovering who I am now, post baby, is not going to happen over night, it will take more than a shiny new look. But damn, this shiny new look has given me the confidence I need to start respecting myself again. To remind me that I am more than “Milla’s mum”.

So here we go ~

My comfy ‘at home’ clothes.

Replacing the baggy track pants, and my husbands hoodie!

Jacket ~ Kmart, $15

Singlet ~ Face Off, $7.50

(Already owned the leggings)

Blazer ~ Target $35.08 (on special, RRP $39.20)

Singlet ~ Face Off $7.50

Jeans ~ Target $25 (on special, RRP $30)

Cardigan ~ Kmart $15

Shoes ~ Rubi $19.95 (2 pairs for $30)

Green shirt ~ Target $25.06 (on special, RRP $28.00)

Jeans ~ Target $25 (on special, RRP $30)

Sleeveless top ~ Kmart $15

Jeans ~ Kmart $7.00

All in all, I spent $263.40, on a total of fourteen ‘mix and match’ outfits.

(Not shown; a new bra, and two pairs of high waisted knickers)

On Sunday, I went out to the shops with the family. Nothing special, just to pick up Milla’s birthday present of lay buy, and do a bit of grocery shopping. Before my makeover, I would have worn track pants and a hoodie. Embracing the new ‘me’, I wore green pants, a blue shirt, blue shoes, mascara and tinted moisturiser. And, do you know what? I felt great. I don’t think I actually realised how invisible I felt before, until I didn’t feel invisible anymore. I felt like “Me”. I felt like “Jane”. WOW.

To be honest, when I started all this, I really didn’t expect to feel so different. I honestly didn’t realise how crap I felt about myself, until I starting feeling good instead.

I know so many of you have been feeling the same way as me, lost, searching for your identity. I think these posts have received the most feedback of anything I’ve ever written. Believe me when I tell you, that once you start respecting yourself, you will start to realise that you deserve that respect.

Changing what is on the outside, doesn’t necessarily change what is on the inside. One of my favorite quotes, is “Fake it until you make it.” Some things are out of our control. Depression, the “Black Dog”, sometimes these are things we can’t control. But confidence, self esteem, and most importantly self respect, these are all weapons against the negative ‘self talk’ that fuels these issues.

I would like to say a huge thank you to Justine from Total Image Solutions. She has truly helped me to find a style that suits who I am now. Yes, I’m a mother, but I am also still Jane. I can, in all honestly, vouch for her passion and commitment to working with women to rediscover their ‘mojo’, their style, their confidence.

If you are interested in finding out more about the services Justine from Total Image Solutions can provide, you can visit her website , ‘like’ Total Image Solutions on Facebook , or give her a call on 0438 271948. Another service that is coming soon to Total Image Solutions is “Girls Night In” where a group of friends can get together and Justine will come to you for a fun and informative styling session. I should have the details of this within the next few days!

If you take nothing else from these posts, please take this ~ You are worth it. You deserve to feel amazing, to feel confident. What do you need to do to feel good about yourself? Do it.  xx




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40 thoughts on “Finding Jane ~ Part Three

  1. HIGH WAISTED KNICKERS. No no no. At least some cute colorful low rise briefs or maybe some cute boy shorts. Or even some lacy thongs. But high waisted briefs. Hot new Jane has to wear sexier underwater then that doesn’t she?????

  2. I love your new look,and I love that its still you- you haven’t had a makeover where we don’t recognise you, you’ve had an improve over! You already had the most important thing, your gorgeousness, so all your new shiny clothes just allow that to shine through properly. Awesome job Justine! Xxxxx

  3. Fantastic Jane…great to see you emerging out of your shell and taking charge…so many of us mums do forget ourselves amidst the kids, home, husband and work. Good on you!!

  4. Hi Jane. I have loved this series. It came to me at a time when I have completely lost my sense of self. I had 2 beautiful little girls and a great husband by the age of 23. Which was all I ever wanted in life. But now that I have it all I realize I didn’t have the chance to figure out who I was before I was a wife and mother. So I am completely defined by those roles. Do you have any reccommendations for someone who lives in Brisbane ? Needing some help :(

  5. You look fabulous and glowing! i love the coloured jeans (i have 3 pairs i lived in this winter) and have been dreaming of a pair of green ones for spring! i love green + navy!

    I love that you are feeling more like yourself and confident – a little effort can chane how you feel about yourself and how you put yourself out there – go Jane!
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  6. That look suits you and you look AMAZING! Welcome back Jane. Thank you for sharing such a personal journey and being so open. You look great and I hope you continue to feel amazing. Xo

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